19 days... Family Matters

Here we are, less than three weeks before the wedding and we STILL do not have all the RSVP's in. I guess that's typical these days with all the other forms of communication. My new favorite 'Hey! you know i'm coming to your wedding, right??' he/she texts. Well, alright i'll take what I can get.

My mother, future mommy in law, and myself have been diligently putting tables together. It's definitely a challenge for a large and complicated family like mine. I am the product of divorced parents... from divorced parents. My fiance's side is half white, half Persian. Makes for an interesting social and cultural dynamic. So the game is; 'Who can I sit together that will enjoy each others' company or at least not ARGUE with one another'. YAAaayyy...

On that note, I had an argument with my grandmother today. GRANDMOTHER! I grew up calling her Grandmama because she was more like a second mommy to me. Yes, I have been busy with work, wedding planning, and keeping my horse alive, you're right, I have NOT been able to go shopping with you. But I'm still a bit hurt by the fact that you could not make it to our Engagement Party OR Bridal Shower. And PLEASE do not use the excuse that you're almost 70 and could drop dead any day. Grandmama, you are a survivor, pity excuses don't fly with me. You are a professor, and a quick witted one at that, your manipulative tactics don't work on me, and when I call you out on it and you get flustered, DON'T call ME manipulative and too young to comprehend all that she deals with at her age.

::WHEW::

Sorry, It's very upsetting to me when family spouts how much they love you and when you actually try to express how you feel instead of just bubbling over... it's just very frustrating. You can tell me all day how much you love me, but if you can't show it, it means little.

Which brings me round and round to the 5 Love Languages. Dustin and I were fortunate enough to attend a marriage seminar about a year into our relationship (we got a bit of a head start in the right direction!).

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/

This little book has made a big difference in how we show affection to one another. When I tried (calmly) to tell my Grandmama how I accepted love (spending quality time together opposed to gifts) she spewed that I was too young to philosophize. Why is it my generation is not taken seriously?

On a high note! The vet okay-ed my horse for travel, animal control has given permission for him to move to another county, and yesterday the Hamzehloui's and I worked all day to finish the shelter! Needless to say it still needs a bit of work, but we're almost done!

We should be able to move Danny by Sunday. It's the best birthday present I could ask for!